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You’re Not “Too Sensitive” — You’ve Learned to Ignore Yourself The difficulty begins when you stop trusting the information your feelings are giving you. Recognition Perhaps you’ve heard it before. “You’re too sensitive.” “You’re overreacting.” “You’re making a big deal out of nothing.” Or perhaps nobody said it directly, but somehow you learned the message anyway. So now when something hurts, frustrates, disappoints or unsettles you, your first instinct is not to listen to y

You may have found yourself thinking: “I don’t feel like myself anymore.” Perhaps nothing dramatic has happened. Life continues. You go to work, spend time with family and friends, meet your responsibilities and carry on with your daily routine. From the outside, things may even appear fine. Yet underneath, something feels different. You may feel distant from yourself. Less connected to your feelings. Less sure of what you want. Less aware of who you are beneath the demands a

Most people think of anger as something to get rid of. Something to control. Something to manage. Something that means we are overreacting or losing control. Yet anger is often not the problem. More often, it is a signal. A signal that something important inside us has been ignored for longer than it can comfortably stay hidden. Anger Is Not Always What It Looks Like When people think of anger, they often imagine shouting, arguments, or conflict. But anger can take many forms

Losing myself around other people. Have you ever noticed that you seem to become a slightly different version of yourself around different people? Perhaps you’re more agreeable with some people. More careful with others. More accommodating in certain situations. For many people, adapting to others becomes such a familiar way of being that it no longer feels like an adaptation at all. It simply feels like who they are. You may find yourself adjusting what you say, how you say

Why do I feel isolated and disconnected even when I'm with friends and family? You can be sitting with people—talking, listening, even smiling—and still feel strangely alone. It’s not always obvious to others. On the surface, everything looks normal. But underneath, there’s a sense of distance. Like you’re there, but not fully in it. Maybe you leave social situations feeling flat, or slightly off. Or you notice that even when conversations go well, something doesn’t quite lan

The difficulty often comes from how early or consistently you’ve learned to manage those needs around others. Why Do I Struggle to Say What I Need - Even When It Matters? You know what you want to say. Or at least, you feel something: “Why can’t I express my needs?” But when the moment comes – you hesitate. You might: soften what you were going to say change the wording wait for a better moment that never quite arrives Or say nothing at all. Later, you think: “Why didn’t I ju

The cost of self-monitoring and self-doubt. You send a message. A few minutes later, you’re reading it again. Wondering: • Was that too much? • Did I explain myself properly? • Have I upset them? • Should I have said something differently? Or perhaps you leave a conversation and find yourself replaying it hours later. You think about what you said. What you didn’t say. How the other person might have interpreted it. And somehow, no matter how many times you go over it, you ne

Why Do I People Please — and Lose Myself in the Process? Feeling disconnected “I’m not really showing up as myself” You might not even notice it at first. You say 'Yes' when you mean 'No', when something doesn’t quite feel right. You go along with plans you’re not that keen on. You prioritise what others need—often without thinking twice. And in the moment, it can feel natural. Even like the “right” thing to do. But later, something shifts. You might feel: slightly resentful

I feel fine one moment and overwhelmed the next – What's happening? You can be completely fine one moment...and then something small happens—a message, a comment, a shift in tone—and suddenly everything feels different. You can be completely fine one moment. Focused. Calm. Getting on with things. And then something small happens—a message, a comment, a shift in tone—and suddenly everything feels different. You feel: overwhelmed anxious unsettled Sometimes it passes quickly. S

You might be wondering whether therapy is something you should even consider. Maybe things aren’t that bad. Maybe you’ve managed so far. Maybe part of you thinks you should just get on with it. And yet, something has brought you here. Not necessarily a crisis. More a sense that something isn’t sitting quite right — even if you can’t fully explain why. And this often isn’t something that shifts just through thinking about it. It’s often not clear-cut For many people, the quest

Why deciding to start therapy can feel harder than the problem itself You’ve probably thought about therapy more than once. You might have searched for therapists. Read a few profiles. Closed the tab. Told yourself you’d come back to it when you felt clearer. More certain. More ready. And then… you didn’t. From the outside, it can look like indecision. But what’s often happening underneath is something more specific. It’s not that you don’t want help It’s that you don’t trust